Boys VS Girls

I was talking to a friend the other day about our family lives, we both have hard relationships with women in our lives and we were discussing them. She mentioned something I haven't thought about much, that we as women forgive men more easily than other women. I pondered this for a bit, then made my decision as to why that is.
I think that women are less likely to forgive other women because we assume that other women think the same way we do, or feel the same way we do. When you share something as basic as a sex organ and hormones one thinks that others that have the same junk will understand how they feel. This isn't so. I have found that women in fact become more critical and judgmental and unforgiving towards their own sex because they forget to do the most basic thing: treat other women the way that they would love to be treated themselves.
It's a golden rule for a reason folks, there are so many times some female friend does something that you can't wrap your mind around. "How could she do that? She knows how I feel about it." or "Why would she say that when she knows it's not ok?" Well, women can be about as thick with their own emotions as a bank vault, and when they get in the way of how we treat others it can become nasty.
Meanwhile, men get to have much more slack because they don't understand women very well at all. Women can't just blame a guy for each insensitive and hurtful thing he has said and done, the boys get to slide because after all, they aren't quite on the same level, are they? Sure, but while we're letting them slide, we are allowing them to continue the same behaviors and live without the consequences.
I'm as guilty as anyone when it comes to allowing males to get away with murder. I'm not as bad as some that I've seen, but I have noticed that when it comes to some situations I place the blame on the fact that this boy/man doesn't understand what I need/want and I can't do anything about it. Or I can, but it takes vulnerability to be able to tell someone what you need, seeing as the worst response would be a wildly resounding no. And that not only sucks bad, but leaves you hurt for longer than in necessary.
In my experience, everyone hurts everyone, and no matter what people will let you down. But I suggest using all of your might and will power to allow that to happen and to move on, not dwelling on the shame and guilt and pain that cripples. Because we are all only human after all, and no one is blameless.

"I suppose that since most of our hurts come through relationships so will our healing, and I know that grace rarely makes sense for those looking in from the outside."